If outside the world stopped, inside the house has never been so agitated ...

If the world stopped outside, inside the house it has never been so agitated. A new e-mail alert arrives, crockery multiplies and requests for attention are countless. Responsibilities for work, home and children can be more difficult to manage when everything is in the same time and space. The feeling of disorganization takes hold and increases the desire to want to put everything in its place. For this, rules and routines are shared with family members and ways of working at home are established. Organization is good, communication too. Together they allow to deal with the expected. However, in the day's planning, some items are not on the agenda. How to deal with tiredness after working and taking care of children? How can you accept the lack of moments for you and the feeling of not being enough for your family or work? Maybe something can help: everything has suddenly become misaligned and in this new reality people are apprentices. And, like any learning process, it is important to understand what did not work and to look for alternatives for the next few days, asking yourself: Is it possible to negotiate? Who can I count on? Doing this with the same kindness with which you have been teaching your child to walk or speak a new word, allowing for error, pause and retry. Among so many things to learn, two are fundamental: First, it's okay if everything doesn't go as planned or if you get impatient or unmotivated, that is also part of it. Second, it is necessary to learn that one is not alone and that reconciling work and family is a task for everyone involved. Share feelings and responsibilities and keep your relationships warm with those who do you well (even from a distance). Finally, if necessary, seek support from specialized professionals to help you in this process.

Text by psychologists Gabriela Techio (CRP 07/28944) and Maria Eduarda Cioccari (CRP 07/20148) from the CEFI SYS group - Systemic Therapy.