How about experiencing use compassion at the end of the year?

The end of the year approaches and, with him, reflections on the year 2021. I perceive in me thoughts like: "Do I have enough?", "I should have studied more," "could have worked hard. most". This time of year is difficult for many people, precisely because they appear reflective thoughts about the year they can possess autocrical tone, especially if we observe that we do not reach any goal or that the expectations we had been frustrated. AutoCompaown is an important tool at this time, which can help us untangle these thoughts of self-criticism and observe ourselves with more love and kindness. According to Kristin Neff, a great researcher in the area, self-pity involves three elements. The first, Mindfulness, is to be aware of the moment experiences at the moment with an openness attitude, allowing reality to be as it is; It is to get in touch with what we observed here and now without attachment or aversion. MindfulnessIt is important for self-pity, for when we stop to observe ourselves, we can contact our pain, with our suffering and, by recognizing them in our body, we can respond to them from a more loving way. But if we avoid our experience and follow in the autopilot, in mind of troubleshooting, it is likely to be stuck with thoughts of self-criticism.

The second element is shared humanity, a sense of interconnection among all people. AutoCompaown brings the idea that human beings are a work in progress. Everyone fail and commit mistakes, this is something natural for human experience, and suffering is an unavoidable fact of life. Sometimes we believe that things should be different and fought with reality, we do not want to suffer and struggle against our faults. However, when we recognize suffering in ourselves and observe it as something natural and normal, we can experience a deep connection with people around us. After all, just like us, other people also experience the pain we feel, they also suffer and make mistakes.

The third element is self-goodness. By noticing suffering and failures as something inherent in human experience, we can make peace with ourselves. There is nothing wrong with us when we fail or when things do not follow the course we desire, these are just parts of human experience, which involves mistakes and hits, pain and joy. We can enable us to be so loving with ourselves as we are with a very dear friend, rather than stuck in the minds of troubleshooting. We can speak phrases like "You gave your best with the tools you had", put your hand in the heart and caress your chest, embrace yourself and thank yourself for the courage to follow on this valiant path.

We can describe autocompany as well as a presence ( Mindfulness ) love (self goodness) and connected (shared humanity). At this time of year, I invite you to practice self-pity by reflecting on 2021, attending to these three elements brought in the text. You can pause for a moment and, if you notice thoughts of self-criticism and difficult memories of the year that passed, you can put your hand in your heart and repeat for yourself: "That I can be loving and kind to myself at this moment", "I recognize that had difficult times this year, "" I recognize my pain in the present moment, "" suffering is something natural, "" other people also feel like I feel now "and can still repeat other love and gentle phrases that Make more sense to you. When we cultivate this way to be in the world, we can transform our relationship with ourselves and with people around us. Bolferai.