For relationships: Presence

Life brings us the possibility of living different relationships. Relationships with family members: father, mother, brothers, the most distant family members, friendship relationships, interactions with people of our daily lives, co -workers or study and so many others who are built throughout life. To start relationships or for us to have close friendships or intimacy relationships we must be present: to be available for what each interaction brings us.

Being present in a relationship is not being distant, looking elsewhere; It is not being sitting next to someone while thinking about the tasks of the week; It is not to put themselves outside a conversation or while friends perform an activity together; It is not excessively concerned about how you are talking or behaving.

To be present in a relationship is to participate. We do not need to try to control or predict every moment, what will happen or how it will happen. We can follow the flow, let ourselves be wrapped in words, images, gestures that come to us. If we are immersed in interaction and realize the impulse of surface, try resisting. Following immerses in interaction.

To be present in a relationship is to be in the present moment. Neither in the past nor in the future. Being in the here-and-now. Do not be overwhelmed with interactions with that person who occurred in the past or the stories we create for the future. Embrace the willingness to live the moment, instant at the moment.

To be present in a relationship is to be aware. Observe the person with interest and curiosity. If it's someone who is the first time you see, pay attention to interest in knowing who is interacting with you. If you are someone you already know, pay attention to curiosity. What is the person talking or doing right now? Be willing to change your mind about the person, do not attach yourself to what you thought they did or said some time ago. People change their way of being and what they think about the world.

To be present in relationships is to make room for each other. We do not need to constantly question the intentions and motivations of the other. And especially, we don't have to assume what the other is feeling and thinking. At times, if we have met the person for a while and we have interpersonal skills to understand the perspective of the other we can create good hypotheses about what is going on with the other person. Still, they will be hypotheses. You need to be open to the possibility of changing your mind and checking with each other if what we infer is correct.

To be present in relations is to leave the judgments suspended. Our mind may be constantly seeking evaluations and interpretations of what the other is doing. We commonly think it is 'right' or 'wrong' or 'good' or 'bad'. To maintain emotional proximity to people we can replace judgments with descriptions of what we observe from experience. Differentiating the description of what we observe around us what is our internal experience, such as thoughts, feelings and sensations.

To be present in relationships is to experience life.