Choices for her

Make choices. Know what is best for me. What is more important. These are exercises we are doing throughout our lives. Choosing is challenging because when we choose one way, we leave another. Also because when we choose a path we can frustrate our expectation and that of someone we love. As an adult I am, I was experiencing different challenges along the way of making choices.

Now as a mother, choosing has taken another, even more intense perspective. Choose for her, choose for her. This has a weight. The effect of my choices on my daughter mobilizes me in an important way. I think, for example, in the great friends I have today. If it wasn't for the choice of day care and school that my parents made for me, with whom would I cry my tears and toast my achievements? These are faces and stories that I will never know, and everything is fine because I enjoy the treasures I carry since there. How lucky my choice of my parents - what valuable friendships I could build. With that, I find myself thinking about the choices for Julia and how determinants of the life she will have and her childhood friends she will make. I notice the weight of this responsibility. My desire to choose the best for her. I watch my charge and fear of making mistakes. I get away a little and try to make room for these sensations. I remember I have no control. I feel a cold in my belly. I breathe and give him room. I observe my mind trying to seek refuge: there are good people everywhere. Friendship relationships are built in different contexts and moments of life. I notice my self -judgment of being mobilized with this choice. Then I can see that the choice mobilizes because the life that Julia is building matters to me. I can then be more compassionate with me.

Today I could be with her at a children's party that enchanted me. The simplicity of the games and wood toys, the joy and spontaneity of recreationists and children enjoying the party. The singing of one of the animators and the imagination proposal that was made. Adults and children having fun and interacting together. The invitation for each one to close their eyes and play traveling in a balloon while all shook a large, round, round -colored fabric alluding to a balloon trip. It was a reminder that I seek a place where my daughter can play a lot, explore fantasy, spontaneity, creativity and all the beauty of this phase of life in which “commitment” is to know the world through playfulness. KNOW AND CONSTITUTE. May this path be light, colorful, cheerful and full of discoveries, friendships, buildings and bonds. May the environment be affective and structurally as safe as possible, such its importance and place in the construction of Julia in the world and in life.

This text tangents some concepts proposed by acceptance and commitment therapy, proposed by Steven Hayes, such as values, acceptance, disregard.