May 15 - International Families Day

Families are composed of those who have a shared story.They cover the entire emotional system, united by blood ties, legal and / or historical. Family composition is no longer represented by its classic model comprising a father, a mother and her children, there were several important changes in the family constitution and relationships of kinship. These new arrangements may vary in consensual joints of separate or divorced partners; same sex unions; joints of people with children of other marriages; monoparental families; Grandparents with the grandchildren and an infinity of other forms.

We learn to relate to the world from our experiences within the family environment, which shows us the importance of a warm and safe environment for individuals to develop, if they will vulture, receive support and comfort . It is in this way that we also learn to develop affective ties, and the attachment develops by the pleasurable interaction that satisfies the needs. In the systemic perspective, attachment is a process of formation of the relationship, thus essential. Such a process develops slowly, first among the child and their parents, and then the model becomes for all future emotional relationships of the individual.

It is in the family that we find the first space of socialization by collaborating for the development of skills, values and behaviors within the cultural context. The family is characterized as an essential part in the construction of emotional health of its members, Give great importance to your health and well-being. A family considered emotionally healthy is the one that presents clear borders among its members, that is, there is freedom and cleanness in the definition of limits for relationships. Borders play an important role, since they are the rules that define who participates and who does not participate in each subsystem, are invisible barriers that organize them.

It is important to verify that the family that enables emotional growth is not the one with absence of conflicts, but rather to find alternatives to their problems.

Written by core trainees CEFI SYS: Isadora Martini, Isadora Rittmann, Paula Daniela Zapata, Pedro Alves Fagundes and Vitória Benatti, with supervision and review of Guilherme Moritz.