CEFI - Porto Alegre Family and Individual Study Center

Welcoming the mourning: reconnecting with life after floods in Rio Grande do Sul

When we talk about mourning, although we associate it with loss, this loss is always related to a bond, a bond that was built and has become important in our lives. The pain in mourning arises by recognizing that this valuable we build is no longer. This bond is usually linked to our values, which in the context of acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) guide us about where we should redirect our attention and effort. This pain gives the feeling that we need to get away from it as soon as possible, but the reality is that it shows us the importance of the bond. This bond is not limited to people; It can also include a home or things that have been built with effort over the years in this home. Recognizing the nature of the bond is essential to understand mourning and decide which way to go to maintain the essence of this bond....

June 12, 2024

How are you feeling? - Taking care of us and taking care of others

In this year 2024, May was marked by the floods that took the state of Rio Grande do Sul. Thousands of people lost their homes, several of them could not yet return, people and animals lost their lives. All who were in hit cities were directly or indirectly impacts. It is an unprecedented catastrophe in our history. How are you being impact on this?...

May 28, 2024

Observing loneliness

These days I felt alone, it was one of those days when I was so tired that the last thing I wanted was to socialize. My social battery was exhausted and I knew that calling someone to talk or leave would just make me more worn, and I couldn't be truly present with the person. So I decided to be alone. In this, I realized that even unintentionally, I have the impulse to try to fix loneliness “Isn't it good to call someone? So let's read a book, let's see a series. ” I noticed that I was constantly looking for something to distract me from that feeling. I realized, with some sadness, that I actively tried to be open to the experience of connecting with other people, but I was not open to feeling the loneliness that seemed unpleasant. So I set out to look at her. ...

April 23, 2024

Mindfulness and DBT assumptions

Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) presents a series of assumptions that serve as foundations for their therapeutic approach. An assumption in this context refers to an idea accepted as true without the need for direct empirical validation, which can substantiate beliefs, practices and theories in various contexts to which DBT is applied. These assumptions are applied to both individual clinical practice and skill training and teams of professionals who employ DBT....

April 16, 2024

Benefits of emotional regulation skills to have a full life

Today I bring a skill that I find super important to have a full life that is worth living that is radical acceptance. I hope you enjoy it and if you are interested, at the end of this post I put the link with more information about the training groups we have open at CEFI right now!...

April 10, 2024

The emotional pain of a separation takes time to heal

When a relationship goes to its end, a process is beginning full of emotional pain, nostalgia, fear, uncertainty and sadness; Becoming aware that this special being, with whom plans had been made for the future, no longer follows in history, and modifying the routine and everyday habits-without involving that person-becomes difficult and almost impossible to support. /P>...

April 04, 2024